A Relationship isn’t defined successful by whether it is a love marriage or arrange marriage or how many years the couples have spent together. Because there are lots of couples who almost spent their entire life together, but their mutual understanding and relationship aren’t strong enough so that we can call it a successful relationship. So how do we know, if we have a successful relationship or not?
In this article, I’ll talk about three secrets of having a successful relationship. Then you can evaluate and understand which side of your relationship you have to improve to make it successful.
1st Secret: Consummate love
Consummate love is the type of love that works behind in a strong and successful relationship.
Now we’ll try to understand the first secret of making a relationship stronger from The Triangular Theory of Love, by famous Psychologist Robert J. Sternberg.
According to Robert J. Sternberg, there are three components of a successful relationship. These are:
It refers to feelings of closeness, connectedness, and bondedness, where the couple shares an emotional bond, mentally connected, they should be authentic in front of each other, openly they should express and empathize with each other’s feelings.
It refers to the drives that lead to romance, physical attraction, sexual consummation, and other related things in loving relationships. That means couples should the romantically and physically attracted to each other and shares physical intimacy.
It refers, couples should be completely committed to spend their life together. Where they should believe in each other, should be loyal to each other, they shouldn’t cheat in their relationship. All in all, they should have the mindset of staying with each other by solving the problem that occurs in their journey of relationship.
These components are necessary if we want to maintain a forever spark in our relationship, and together these three things create the Consummate love (Intimacy+ Passion+ Commitment).
2nd Secret: Maintenance of love
New couples can easily bring the components (Intimacy, passion, and Commitment) of consummate Love into their relationship, but it becomes really hard to maintain. Couples will face lots of ups and downs, and challenges in their life. But a truly successful relationship will the one where couples can maintain their consummate love for each other. So a couple must evaluate their love for each other and maintain it from time to time to have a Good Relationship.
3rd Secret: Time of Investment to Grow
The most important secret of a successful relationship is they should invest enough time to grow their relationship. In a relationship, everyone must have their space to grow. A relation becomes successful when you, your partner and your relationship individually have enough time to grow. That means you must focus on your relationship too when you and your partner grow in your life and your carrier.
Also, some extra responsibilities became added to a couples life when they enter into a relationship. And sometimes the couples became so busy with these extra responsibilities that they became unable to spend a good time together. As a result, their relationship doesn’t have enough time to grow. In this case, couples should share their responsibilities. Here responsibilities can be related to finance, parenting, household works, outdoor works etc. When couples equally share these responsibilities, their relationship becomes strong and they have enough time to spend together.
These are 3 secret tips to build a successful relationship. Try to follow these tips to improve your relationship with your partner.
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